That Fatness/Fitness Venn Diagram

I’m always at odds with myself at this time of year when Instagram is divided into two opposing sides of Team Fatness & Team Fitness, leaving my fat-positive-but-wanting-to-lose-weight-for-personal-health-reasons arse sitting awkwardly in the middle of a real life venn diagram.

New Year, Same Drama

It would be nice to think that fence sitters are removed far enough from both sides to avoid the bullets either camp is firing but, instead, I’m getting it from both barrels.

As if the festive period isn’t dramatic enough already without knowing that every year, when the clock strikes midnight on 31st December, your friends are going to start indirectly being a dick to & about you just for not being 100% on board with one of their beliefs!

This predicament haunts me all year round but it is especially rife at new year &, whether you’re fat, fit, or sitting on the fence, you know it’s true. Observe:

Team Fatness Ethos

Team Fatness generally consists of the plus size, fat acceptance, & body positive communities whose argument is – quite rightly – that we don’t need to buy into a money making “new year, new me” fad devised by a weight loss company, because we love who we are every day of the year whatever weight we are.

Team Fatness are happy in our curves both physically (in terms of aesthetics) &, well, physically (in terms of physical health) & disagree also with the health side of weight loss, contesting that there are more effective ways to look after our health without focusing on our size; mental wellness, positive living, sleep routines.

The Team Fatness brand slogan (if indeed we were summed up in one easily Instagrammable caption) is “we are more than a “before” photo”.

Team Fitness Ethos

Whereas Team Fitness – which is mostly made up of slimming club success stories, ex-fat people whose health/lifestyle/self confidence has benefit from weight loss, & people who have never had to live the fat like – love the fresh start of the new year to motivate us into self improvement with a bit of weight loss.

Team Fitness proclaims that losing weight &/or getting healthy can boost our new year into being our best year yet for reasons beyond just looking slimmer & being lighter but also by reaping other related benefits; improved mental wellness, positive living, sleep routines.

And the Team Fitness brand logo (again, if there was such a thing) is a raw “before” photo that encourages our “after” photo at the end of the year to be different, better, improved as a result of the changes we made.
As you can see, both camps are very similar.

Judge Me Not!

Although both teams hate being criticized for what we stand for & claim to be a very open-minded due to being on the receiving end of ignorant negativity from those who have unnecessarily judged us, both are openly judgmental of the opposite just because they don’t buy into what we personally feel.

Doesn’t it all seem hypocritical & just a bit pointless when we see the two side by side in glorious technicolour?

Neither side are wrong.

Both make a valid argument that have the most positive intentions & we know Instagram ain’t Rupaul’s best friend race!

But, instead of making any kind of argument at all, can’t we all just practice what we preach in our “you do you/beYOUtiful/each to their own” attitude towards this whole Fat Vs Fit thing?

We can be fat and fit.

We can love ourselves and still strive for self improvement.

We can have the best 2019 and still want to work on a better 2020.

We can be a fucking masterpiece and a fucking work in fucking progress at the same fucking time! (And another F-bomb to empha-fucking-size that).

Practice What We Preach

If, after this, we are still adamant on fighting the good fight for what the new year means to us (which, of course, we all have the right to do & I fully support this!), can’t we just focus on our own side’s positives rather than harping on about what we believe to be the other side’s negatives?

Or better still, can’t we just accept that the entire population of Instagram doesn’t agree with us at every turn & live our social media dreams without needing any “them” & “us”?

These rhetorical questions from the middle of my real life venn diagram obviously need no answers but, as I’m a very happy size 24 fat lass who is actively seeking to lose weight to reclaim my health from conditions directly caused by my weight (hello there, obstructive sleep apnoea!), I support & identify with both circles.

When “new year, new me” discussions rear their ugly head, I can’t help but take offense when both of the communities I proudly belong to start throwing shade at me just for wearing the very shoes that I have to walk in every day.

Similarly, I can’t help but see the painful irony of fighting against being judged by judging another, which I will just leave there as my overall mic drop to drive that point home. Boom!

To Team Fatness & Team Fitness, please practice what you preach &, without wanting to sound like that annoying primary school teacher (probably the same one who taught you what venn diagrams are), accept others the way you wish others to accept you.

Happy 2020 to both sides of the fence,
Dani | Mrs Walmsley x

(“Team Fatness Vs Team Fitness” was first published by Mrs Dani Walmsley for The Unseasoned Wag blog)

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30 Comments

  1. Amazing post!! I share a lot of body acceptance posts, but I always get attacked for also saying that I’m not anti-exercise. I think movement is so important and try to stress that exercise should be done to be kind to your body rather than punish it. A lot of people hate when don’t pick a “clear side.” I’m not a fan of diet culture, but everyone’s body, weight, and health are their own business. Again, great post!

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    1. I totally get you & I’m so glad we’re on the same page! Body acceptance & the surrounding community are such a wonderful things but part of accepting *our* body is to accept *their* body, including the choices of exercise, diet, lifestyle etc they serve it with. I’m forever loving a non-judgemental vibe of beYOUty that I hope this post radiates.

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  2. I love this post! You don’t have to be slim to be fit. Even if this doesn’t really relate to my point, I was overweight last year and decided to exercise and I managed to lose 23 kilos in 4-5 months.

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    1. That’s a real achievement that you worked hard on. I know some believe weight loss shouldn’t be congratulated but you clearly wanted that & you smashed your goal – you wanted it for your own reasons & you got it for yourself with no judgement or impact on others, so huge well done!

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  3. It has taken me a while to respect and appreciate my curves – I will always be a work in progress, but I am happy. Love the Keto diet, but if I want a treat, I will; damn well have that treat! I also tend to ignore everyone, especially the haters and even more so the people who make me choose. That tends to backfire on them and I run the other way! 😉 It’s all about being happy in your own skin xx Sim – SimsLife

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  4. You’ve hit the nail right on the head! I am currently trying to get fit but I hate that it is assumed that you need to pick sides. Nope, you don’t – be who you want to be and how you want to be as long as you aren’t pushing your opinions on others.

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  5. I love that you say both sides are right but can’t we just do our own thing. I’m tall and fairly slim with some curves and never stop eating veggie food, so people think I must work out and I’m super healthy. I’m sooo wobbly and untonned and my metabolism is too fast because I’m chronically ill and I live on takeaways! BUT I do try to eat (order) health food and LOVE my few curves. You are so right about trying to be healthy AND embracing our curves as that is healthy for us mentally too.

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    1. That’s interesting to hear that you get the flip side of the judgement that fat people get; because you’re slim it is automatically assumed that they’re healthy & because others are fat they’re instantly assumed to be unhealthy, whereas in reality, there’s a whole unexplored area that dispels these myths! Neither body size is exclusively healthy or unhealthy & thank you for sharing how all this gubbins impacts you as a slimmer (with damn fine curves!) woman.

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      1. ‘Damn fine curves’ love it. 😊 But getting them toned up is a bitch! *sigh* I was lucky enough to have a Mum that was a big lass (best hugs ever!) but she was also so healthy and then my best mate was big too and she was a fantastic dancer and had amazing elegance and stamina. So that general mindset never occurred to me but others don’t always have those references in their lives and go off what they see and are taught by mass media. It does seem to be slowly changing now though. What you reckon?

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  6. I am the same as you and in the middle, although I know I want to lose weight for myself (and my health). I think there are positives and negatives to both as you can be larger and perfectly healthy and skinny but unhealthy. Everyone’s bodies are different x

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    1. You’re absolutely right. Every body (& mind & lifestyle & ability & all that jazz) is different so wouldn’t it be wonderful if Team Fat & Team Fit could both just live & let live! Nobody is wrong or right as long as they’re doing what *they* want to do for their own reasons without being unnecessarily influenced by diet culture or bopo pressure.

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  7. I am really impressed how many people start coming to gym at the beginning of new year. There is a lot of pressure from the outside to be fit and slim. I think we should start accepting our bodies as they are and do not try to be a copy of someone else.

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  8. I am not in any of these camps either. I believe that you should do whatever feels right for you and makes you happy with yourself. It that means loosing a few pounds, then ok. If that means loving and accepting your body as it is, than ok as well. Why should we mould our lives and believes after what Instagramers say? Just my thought.

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  9. So true! Being skinny doesn’t equal healthy or fit, so why does it matter how you look. It should be all about doing what’s right for you, your lifestyle, your choices.

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    1. That’s the nail on the head right there… Only less about *us* not worrying what others think (because we’re happily doing us on our fence!) & more about *them* (i.e. those with opposing views) focusing on the positives of their choices rather than the negatives of others’ choices.

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  10. I don’t think it matters what size you are really. You can be fat and fit, or thin but not too healthy. I think what is most important is finding a balance that works for us as individuals.

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