It is often thought that wearing our heart on our sleeve is a negative thing, something that makes us vulnerable that invites people to manipulate & control us.
And to a certain extent this may be true – unless we choose to tell the world, they’re blissfully unaware of our struggle & we’re able to carry on in our own merry way.
But have we ever stopped to think about the plus sides of allowing ourselves to be vulnerable? Because, without opening ourselves up in such a way, how would we ever blossom into the kickass individuals we want to be?
Not everybody is out to get us &, believe it or not, a lot of people really want to help us in our battles. Fuck, they might even have their own issues they’d love our help with! But none of us can help each other solve any of these problems that we don’t even know exist.
Wearing our heart on our sleeve is just natural for some, & those of us who accessorise our outfits with open emotions more commonly appear to have a closer support network.
But look closer.
They have the same caring pillars of support that we all do, only they’re able to offer more help because they have a better understanding of what we’re going through, how we’re feeling, why we need that extra bit of their love.
A lot of us bottle things up – whether we know so or do it unintentionally – & if this is a coping strategy that works for us, there’s absolutely no need to fix what isn’t broken. But there’s a whole world of help beyond our own internalised thoughts.
There are more than a few helping hands out there for us all (even when we feel like there isn’t a single soul who cares, & even fewer who actually understand us!) but it’s all about a little bit of reasonable give & take.
If we don’t give those around us the trust & insight into our life, we can’t hope to take their comforting words of wisdom.
There are a lot of benefits to wearing our heart on our sleeve & being vulnerable isn’t always a bad thing; without a fall we can never get up.
And sometimes that “fall” is simply moving ourselves from a standing position to comfortably sitting down while we open up our heart to our nearest & dearest.
Just a little something to think about next time we head into a self-indulgent meltdown about how nobody understands us…
Dani | Mrs Dani Crater x