When I asked what people would like to read on The Unseasoned Wag, the subject of our wedding came up time after time. And as we’ve just celebrated our first wedding anniversary on our long awaited honeymoon, it felt fitting to finally write about the happiest days of our combined life in a series of blogs that I unapologetically entitle “Wedded Bliss”.
The first in this series is an ode to individuality & choice power that truly made our wedding our wedding.
Although still a rather conventional English white wedding, we scrapped some of the standard traditions because they said nothing about us.
We didn’t want to be too “out there” for the sake of being unconventional as that’s not us, but at the same time, we didn’t want to follow every tradition as the done thing because that isn’t us either; it was our day so we wanted it our way…
…Rather fitting considering the motto of our venue Last Drop Village is “Your Wedding Your Way”! This is one of the reasons we fell so deeply in love with the place & their phenomenal 2018 wedding planners, Jade & Vicki, because they just “got” us & we’re so open-minded to our requests.
Nothing – and we mean nothing – was too much for them (including popping back up to our suite to bring me some comfier shoes after the ceremony & bringing our room service breakfast the day after in the snow!) & instead of a standard package, they created us a bespoke wedding.
Just The Two Of Us
Your wedding day is a celebration of your love for another & the commitment to spend the rest of your lives together, & ever since we first got together, Crater & me have very much lived in our own happy little bubble of togetherness so wanted our big day to continue in this way.
Of course we love our friends & family unconditionally, that goes without saying, but we chose to celebrate our love each other with just each other. We had the most intimate of intimate weddings with a ceremony for two. We had no guests. And it was the best choice we ever made.
A Personal Celebration
The day spanned into a three-day love-in that began the day before with afternoon tea & ended the day after it with spa treatments & was the most personal, romantic, candlelit, personal wedding we could’ve ever wished for.
We’d purposely been given a two-room suite to ensure we didn’t see each other in our wedding finery til we were at the alter – which was a table of candles in delicate glass jars atop a red carpetted aisle pathed with more candles – because we both wanted that moment when he lifted my veil.
From Miss To Mrs
While he nervously got ready in one room, I had a hair & make up artist in the other to help transform me from Miss to Mrs in my curve-hugging dress of white lace, my two-tier cathedral length veil & my “something blue” mermaid shoes with my handmade giant paper lily to match his handmade paper lily buttonhole in memory of his wonderful mum.
Once ready, we were separately given our interviews before I walked down the aisle to the familiar sound of one of “our songs”, Rather Be by Clean Bandit & Jess Glynn.
The only others to be present at our wedding were the two registrars & our two multi-talented all-round angels of wedding planners, who were also our witnesses & photographers. This made for such a romantic, emotional atmosphere in the windowless room lit only by the light of 50 candles that it took everything I had not to blub my way through my vows.
After sealing the deal with traditional vows that we had adapted to get rid of the references to these here people present & all that jazz, we signed the register to All The Lovers by Kylie Minogue (another sentimental tune of ours) & walked back up the aisle as husband & wife to the timeless romantic classic of Slayer’s Skeletons of Society. A less than traditional song to start wedded bliss with but, as Crater’s wrestling entrance music at the time, we couldn’t have thought of a more fitting track.
Fairy Godmothers Of Wedded Bliss
Our wedding planner extraordinaires put their photography skills to the test & snapped us both candidly & posed in various locations across the stunning Last Drop Village before we shared a “champagne” toast of his Jack Daniels & Coke & my Malibu & Diet Coke, because neither of us actually like champagne!
Then onto our three-course wedding breakfast for the two of us in the private room we tied the knot that had been wonderfully made over while we were out for photos. White linen, chair sashes of our favourite colour & a cake table to display our two-tier salted caramel beauty with handmade needle felt Mr & Mrs robin toppers (another sentimental in joke of ours) joined the cascade of candles to decorate the place perfectly as ambient music of classical compositions of pop songs played as we ate.
And the rest, as they say, is history! We had the most perfect day that included everything we dreamed for without anything we didn’t but, more importantly, we spent our wedding day lovingly thinking of nobody but each other.
Nobody But You
The elements of a traditional wedding that spoke to us were still there – my fat arse was even carried over the threshold with those wrestlerman muscles! – but we truly did have our wedding our way.
And as well as the obvious, this allowed us to keep to an affordable budget, use a lot of independent & local small businesses & talented friends, & save the rest for our honeymoon… All of which will I tell you all about in the rest of my Wedded Bliss, so you best get subscribing. Shameless!
Dani | Mrs Crater x