New Year, New(ish) You: The “Stop Riding His Coattails” Edition

I’ve seriously needed to get my pants in gear for a while with regards to my worklife & as New Year & all of it’s “New Year, New You” cheese approaches, what better time to do it than now? However:

“Love your job & you’ll never have to work a day in your life”

Regardless of how motivated you are to smash 2019’s resolutions, the above is easier to apply to a dream career that takes you all over the world than than one that simply sees you sitting in an office day after day (after day after day after day!).

Although there are many similarities between my job in insurance & his wrestling career, I still always feel I’m riding my wrestlerman’s coattails towards a more fulfilling life than helping us both work towards one together.

Wanted: Career!

The dream life for me as a little girl wasn’t working an office job to keep my head above water but an actual (paid!) career in writing that I would fit around homemaking & being a mother.

But, alas, adulting & a lifetime of “next year will be my year” happened & pissed right on that ambitious bonfire of mine, leaving me with a for-the-sake-of-it job & a who-are-you-trying-to-kid faded dream that I now feel too old, responsible, inexperienced & silly to try making reality. All of which is happening in the background of my successful, talented, wrestling superstar’s high-flying career that he has worked so hard on for over 10 years while I just proudly watch.

While he’s jet-setting around the world & performing for thousands of adoring fans, my Average Joe work life brings him back to reality with an almighty 36 stone crash & the closest I get to the hectic fun of his career is living it second hand through his stories. But I’m too far gone to start working towards my own hectic fun career in writing after 30 years of procrastinating…

…Or so I thought!

Fire In Your Belly

As it happens, the 2018 Crimbo Limbo period plus 30 years of procrastination, watching my husband & friends (particularly wrestler-turned-published-author, Lucy Knott, who is celebrating the release of her first wonderful novel, How To Bake A New Beginning!) working their dream was just what I needed to rekindle that fire under my arse.

Step One: Grab a coaching session with the gorgeous Lynsey Le Keux – business coach, owner of Le Keux Vintage Salons, Parties & Cosmetics & general badass boss babe – to help me decide just where in fresh hell to begin.

For obvious reasons of condifentiality & plagiarism, I’m not going to simply divulge the advice she gave to me but if all the New Year, New You gubbins is your bag, I genuinely couldn’t recommend a session with Lynsey highly enough if schedules & finances allow.

Failing that, have a spy on my own tips below. But first, here comes my disclaimer: I always loves me a new start but I also loves me being me, so do take the phrase “New Year, New Me” with a pinch of salt because I don’t want to be a new me nor do I want you to be a new you – think of them as tips for “New Year, Improved-For-The-Future-Starting-From-2019-But-Still-Very-Much-The-Same-Me-That-I-Already-Know-and-Love Me”.

4 Steps For A New Year, Improved-For-The-Future-Starting-From-2019-But-Still-Very-Much-The-Same-Me-That-I-Already-Know-and-Love You:

  1. Be Realistic But With Dreams – It goes without saying that you shouldn’t set yourself up for failure with unrealistic goals but if you don’t dream big, you won’t achieve big. Find that happy medium of achievable & ambitious to give yourself something to work for without overdoing it.
  2. Be Flexible Yet Consistant – With 365 days in 2019, there’s really no need to be too rigid in your goals if things beyond your control crop up. If winter weather is preventing you training for your springtime 5k run, just move your goal to summertime! But just because you now have those few extra months to train, don’t suddenly move your own goalposts by adding new things to your original target & berating yourself for being unable to reach them.
  3. Be Kind Yet Structured – Don’t tear yourself apart to find something you dislike about yourself or your life just for a reason to change it but if you do have a change to make, approach it with thought & structure. I personally love a deadline & splitting my target into manageable milestones to get there. Without dates & deadlines it’s just too easy to put it off til tomorrow… Or the day after… Or the day after that.
  4. Be Considerate Towards Others Yet Self-Focused – Just because you want to lose weight doesn’t mean we all have that goal & want you to harp on about it to even those who really don’t feel the need to discuss it. However, your goals are your goals; other peoples’ views on such issues absolutely shouldn’t get in the way of you reaching your personal target.

No Pressure!

In summary, I think what I mean is that goals to change yourself for the better are marvellous & with all the new year motivation on the horizon, this is possibly the best time to get cracking with them, whether that’s a small resolution like replying to all text messages the same day you receive them or a potentially life-changing goals like my complete career revamp.

You Do You

But putting pressure on yourself to change just because January exists is just unnecessary; being happily stagnant or riding someone else’s coattails til there’s a change you want to make is more than fine as long as you’re still smiling.

Happy new year to the same old brand new you & here’s to necessary changes.

Mrs Walmsley| The Unseasoned Wag x

( “New Year, New(ish) You: The “Stop Riding His Coattails” Edition was first published by Mrs Dani Walmsley on “The Unseasoned Wag” blog)


  1. You are never old to follow your dreams! And anyway, look at you, here you are, you ARE writing! Possibly not in the same format that you expected but we’ll done you for putting yourself out there. I wish you a successful 2019! 😃 Xxx

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